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Mother-in-Law Nightmare

My mother-in-law is a nightmare: literally!  I had an awful dream about her last night, how she was snappy and mean to me! 

In real life, she’s fine.  I wouldn’t say a dream mother-in-law, but pleasant enough.

I think this stemmed from a conversation I had with her last week.  I had met up with her and my sister-in-law for lunch, and my mother-in-law felt the need to remind me that my husband, HER son, works very hard, and that I need to take good care of him.  She proceeded to grill me about whether or not I’ve been cooking, what I’ve been cooking, if he gets enough to eat, if he’s healthy, etc.  She was decently pleasant about it, albeit incredibly annoying.

MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS!! is what I was thinking in my head as I smiled politely back at her…

How do all you wives out there deal with your in-laws?

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I Am Not a Morning Person, But I Love Being Married.

Although I generally found that the transition between engaged to married was a bit anti-climactic, I do love being married.  There are tons of reasons, many of them similar to why all you wives out there love being married, but I wanted to share 2 husband-specific reasons. =)

1.  I am not a morning person.  I am usually cranky and irritable.  It is best if you do not speak to me unless spoken to.  Even bringing me breakfast if I’m not in the mood is not always appreciated, although I will hide my annoyance and say thank you.  Yuppie Husband definitely knows this.  He teases me about getting up on the wrong side of the bed, and constantly reminds me to get up on the right side.  So, he has taken to creating obstacles to force me to get up on the “right” side.  The first morning this happened, I was so confused – why was there a chair and laundry basket lined up on the left side of the bed?  Sometimes it is an open night stand drawer followed by a laundry basket.  Usually, a laundry basket (empty) is involved.  Among the millions of other things Yuppie Husband does actively to try to express his love, it is this simple indirect act (perhaps one of self-preservation!), that I love.  Why?  It shows me that he accepts me for my flaws, and can joke about them, but that he also wants to help me be happy and better myself always – for my sake, for his sake, and for the sake of our relationship.  And it’s just super cute.

2.  Again, I am not a morning person.  If I have nothing to get up for, I won’t.  I hate getting up early, and will wait until the last possible second.  I snooze the alarms, and can even sometimes sleep through them.  But Yuppie Husband knows that sometimes I do have morning appointments, and when I do, he will always re-set the alarm for my wake up time after he leaves, and follow-up with a phone call to make sure I got up in time.  My own personal wake-up call service. =)

What sweet husband-specific things about marriage do you love?  Please share!

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Rants

(Sorry readers, just feel like ranting today…)

#1  Why am I always always doing laundry?  I just can’t understand how it piles up the way it does!  Before I got married, I probably only had to do laundry once every 2 or 3 weeks, but now, I’m doing 3 loads at a time once a week!  It could be partially due to the fact that the laundry machines in our building are tiny, but I really think it’s the boxers, the socks, the undershirts, the T-shirts, the smelly gym clothes…  As women, I think we just have less (and smaller) items that need to be changed daily!  I think I would be much less frustrated if the washer and dryer were right here in our apartment, but sadly, they are not.  We have one communal set of machines on our floor, so I have to drag the dirty laundry, the detergent/bleach/softener/etc, laundry card and house keys with me.  Not to mention the fact that I can’t control the cycle, soaking, extra rinsing, etc.  What a pain.

#2  Yuppie Husband is pretty active (gym, sports, etc), and I have never, until having to do his laundry, encountered such horrid smells.  His gym clothes are literally still wet when I take them out of the hamper to wash, and I always have to hold my breath.  I have asked him to air his clothes out before throwing them in, but I’m not sure that is helping…  Do any of you ladies out there have a similar problem?  How do you deal with it?

#3  Dishes.  Why are there always dishes?  I used to be a firm believer that dishes should never be left in the sink for more than half a day, and certainly never overnight.  But now?  Always dishes.  Our sink is also kind of small, and doesn’t have one of the detachable faucets, so washing larger items can be a little messy…

Being a housewife is hard.  Not that I should be complaining – at least I don’t have to work!

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My Favorite Everyday Life Guide Books

 These are some of my favorite life “how to” books – helpful guides to every day living!

  1. Martha Stewart’s Homekeeping Book: The Essential Guide to Caring for Everything in Your Home by Martha Stewart – I LOVE this book. It came out before I was married, and even though I did not yet have a home to keep, Yuppie Husband bought it for me. It teaches you how to do everything! My favorite lesson: how to fold fitted sheets.
  2. Emily Post’s Etiquette by Peggy Post – I am a stickler for etiquette. I ♥ etiquette. Social etiquette has been seriously lacking, and I find it be so frustrating! I wish I could just pass this book out to everyone, but I know most people wouldn’t bother opening it.  Let’s bring proper etiquette back!
  3. The Wedding Book: The Big Book for Your Big Day by Mindy Weiss – This book is the go to book when it comes to planning a wedding.  It includes time lines, templates, etiquette, guidance, etc.  It’s written in a way that is easy to read and comprehend.  A must for brides, bridesmaids, mothers and planners!
  4. The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate by Gary Chapman – The concept of love languages is something that is easy to understand and makes logical sense, but can be so hard to effect in a relationship!  Through my own experiences with Yuppie Husband and through listening to countless girlfriends’ gripes and complaints about their relationships, I have come to realize that at the heart of many issues troubling loving, committed couples the feeling of not being “loved” enough.  This book explores how people give and receive love in different languages, and the key is to identify and understand the languages of you and your partner.
  5. The Bible – The best of all.  Enough said. =)

What are some of your favorite guide books for living life?  Please share!

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Well, I work, too!

Probably the thing I hate most about being a housewife is the loss of leverage in fighting with Yuppie Husband.  I am new housewife, and a sometimes lazy one, so no, the house is not always clean and the dishes sometimes wait in the sink for Yuppie Husband to come home.  When I was working, I always had “Well, I work, too!” to fall back on.  These days, I really don’t have much of an excuse. 

However, I hate it, absolutely despise it, when Yuppie Husband pulls out “I work all week, make money for us and all you do is sleep in and do nothing all day.”  It just simply isn’t true.  I do a lot during the day.  I might not always be doing the chores of a typical “housewife”, but I certainly am occupying my time somehow.  I can see his point, but still…I resent it.  I am not a live-in maid, I am not a hired chef, I am not a laundromat.  Plus, our current living situation is temporary, as we search for a suitable house to move in to.  What is the point of cooking, cleaning, maintaining this temporary apartment???  In any case, yes, I suppose I need to step up and become a better housewife. 

But, why does society so dramatically discount the role of a housewife?  Why does being the breadwinner earn so much respect, but a housewife is “just a housewife”?  Isn’t cooking, cleaning, laundry, scheduling just as, if not more, difficult?  What about gift-buying and card-sending for birthdays and holidays?  Home decoration, closet organization, photo storage and archival?  The list goes on!  There are so many random little things that need to be done around the house, and half the time husbands don’t seem to know or care where anything is or should be!  Running a household seems very much like running a small office.  Not a small undertaking!

Again, maybe I should go back to work…

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